Running away,
defending yourself, avoiding, jealousy, swallowing words, stubbornness, future events or upcoming change… Just a few words as responses associated to the word ‘fear’.
But what is fear ?
To me a
definition would be: A repetition of an uncomfortable moment from the past.
Once imprinted there’s a legion of those uncomfortable moments. Think of:
shame, pain and humiliation. It appears the brain creates associations with
those moments and if unattended it could be there a lifetime. We seem to loose
all reason when we arrive in a moment of fear. We become suspicious, skeptical and
loose trust in people in a heartbeat. But what can we do about fear ? Is it
possible to live without fear ? One persons fear is often not comparable to the
other. How do you let go of fear ?
My theory:
Somewhere the
fear was born. Like a source of memories saved in our internal hard disk. A
moment where you got a different view on your life and made a decision to have
that experience never again. I believe in some cases fear has been taught or
could be transferred upon an other. But why do we keep fear alive ? Fear itself
isn’t more than a association that we keep on projecting in similar situations of
where the fear was born. But it’s something we hold on to. And things you hold
on to you can let go. How ridiculous is it that one event in life could be
carried around a lifetime and even build a life around it ? Fear seems real but
if you would look at it closely it’s merely an illusion. The brain will write
an instant script and we often don’t verify if it’s rational.
For those who
believe in the universe/God/Allah/Buddha etc. as a well, source or home of wisdom could be able to
live without fear. What works for me is to always keep the faith. Though I do
admit some things in life requires an effort to regain faith. Also believing
that all things in life happen for a reason even the moments that don’t make
sense when in the moment. A learning experience to make progress in your
development. Looking back in my life a lot of pieces of the puzzle fell in
place eventually. If we realize this we could shake off a lot of our fear or at
least accept that the feeling of fear are a gift that could lead to inner
freedom. I understand quite well our mind works like a filter wanting to save
our heart from pain. But when the heart speaks the brain needs to be open and
don’t reason the voice of the heart away. The heart is wiser than the mind but
the mind somehow is stronger. We should try to maintain objectivity in a ‘fear’
situation and also try to ‘feel’ what’s really or actually going on in those
moments.
If you can be
free of fear I cannot say nor promise. But examining your fear is worth the
effort. Who loses fear gains trust. Bring your fears together, write them down.
In which situations do you experience them and where lies the origin ? How long
are you willing to maintain fear in your life ? Don’t hold back on sharing them
with a loved one or third party you trust and ask for help. Everything that
could help you come closer to who you are and embrace life is a step towards inner
peace...
One more thing
that supports my theory and could help you (and this is not created by myself
but Byron Katie) is ask yourself the following four questions when in fear or
doubt:
1 Is it true?
2 Can you absolutely know that it's true?
3 How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4 Who would you be without the thought?
2 Can you absolutely know that it's true?
3 How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4 Who would you be without the thought?
I will say my fear has decreased from a 100% to 10%. My in-tension in this post is agreeing with Stevie. For myself fearless means that there is noting on this earth that I am not part off. Fear is emotional delusion at it's best.
ReplyDeleteNice blog! I can see what you mean & I agree with most of what you say here.
ReplyDeleteI have adopted the Donald Walsch's view, that fear & love are 2 opposites, a duality that is part of creation. From that perspective there is quite a simple solution: Love your fear, and it will melt away. Fear is a lower frequency than Love, and higher frequencies generally raise the lower ones.
But too keep it simple here's an example: if you fear water (swimming in the sea and such) and you can put yourself to loving the fear, you may end up loving the water too.