The Different Kind

If a child is different compared to others than there can be a diagnosis that doesn’t correspondence with the context. A teacher could describe a behavior on which he/she advises that the child should visit a psychologist. My theory is that too many psychologists make a diagnosis based on theoretical knowledge too soon.

Many of you would probably agree that children have a spiritual peak between the age of 4 and 7. The same with adults of which some you can say have certain special abilities.  The downside of this gift or talent with children is that they’ll stand out in class (in a negative way). A different behavior that isn’t equal to the rest of the class. The advise to visit a psychologist worries me. I have heard several stories of parents in this situation. At home it’s the total opposite of the behavior at school. At home it’s more social, says very wise things for it’s age and they’re very curious and open. At school it seems introvert and doesn’t seem to connect with other classmates and learns things in a different speed or way. If parents decide to listen to the advise of the teacher and return from the psychologist there’s a big chance that the child has been put inside the box of Autism or Asperger.

Ain’t it weird that if you’re that age how easy you’ll be forced inside a box ? I’m really glad that HSP (High Sensitive Person) is becoming a more accepted diagnosis and that there’s more attention for special guidance for these beautiful little angels. Sometimes I think SG (Spiritual Gifted) would be a better word for these kids. It would be a shame if they would be disconnected from themselves. I believe that in many cases that did happen with a lot of us. Oftenly as we grow older we become aware of a spiritual growth. Where we in fact take off where we left it when we had to drop it to the floor around the age of 7. I come from an age where spirituality wasn’t as accepted as it is (becoming) now. I’m not a parent yet but I wouldn’t immediately accept a diagnosis of Autism or Asperger and definitely not if there’ll be medication involved.

A while ago we had a program on TV in the Netherlands where youngsters with a special gift were offered special guidance by a medium who is specialized in this field. At first I was bit skeptical. But it has opened a lot of doors for parents and challenged to look further instead of accepting a diagnosis. It was amazingly beautiful to see how happy those kids were with finally being understood by the medium as well as the parent(s). The ‘right’ guidance I might say.

Don’t get me wrong…I don’t want to bad mouth psychologists (not possible because I don’t know them all) but there are too many who approach kids and adults too much from the mind and diagnose like a universal formula as if it’s a calculation based on theory. I just wish that every child that appears ‘different’ won’t be judged and put in a box too soon where it doesn’t belong and would be disconnected from the rest of the world….They are the future angels and blessings that would walk among men !