Doctors,oncologists,psychologists,coaches and mediums...What if a cancer patient would ask one of them the question of how to deal with this disease? What tools or interventions could they possibly use?
I was asked this question by someone close to me after sharing my theory about acceptance on an other aspect in life and did not really knew how to reply to it. Even though it's all about acceptance it doesn't make it an easy message to bring across. Also because it feels too easy of an advice to yell from the sideline. How would you reply to such a question ? What would you want to hear if you were the patient ? I truly cannot imagine how it would be like to have a fatal disease like cancer. But still it's in our nature wanting to say something meaningful to show our compassion. 'You have to accept it and decide how to proceed in your mental approach' is something that won't instantly give a
soothing mindset but I believe it is what it all comes down to.
It's a choice how you will spend the fading time that has been given to you. I have seen people fight and have experienced every second as a gift. I have also witnessed people getting into a depression and felt anger towards God. Both cases have the free will to choose their dealing with the situation. There is no manual about this matter. It's yet another of the many challenges people face in life. Not only for the patient but also for the people that are close to the person fighting cancer. I think a lot of you can imagine how hard it would be having a loved one being terminally ill. Though it's one party that is dying both parties have to deal with this knowledge. I have one friend in the spiritworld who died of cancer. One of the first people I knew who really stood close to me that has passed on. I didn't know how to cope with it since it was my first friend to go. I was much younger then and at that time I only visited him once in the year he'd spent in the hospital before passing on. Back then I wanted to remember him as the way I did before the diagnosis. Afterwards I couldn't help feeling a little guilty about the one time visit. At first I couldn't believe he died until the open casket.
Maybe it's up to no one to advise someone how to deal with cancer. I think I wouldn't want to hear any. But what can you do ? Maybe respecting wishes or simply be there when needed a listening ear or the holding of a hand. To show compassion. It's a journey, an exploration 'cause the one person is not the other. Merely offering suggestions for it's never easy dealing with it. For those fighting cancer and the loved once standing by: I wish you all the strength, faith, light, love and persistance of finding a way of dealing with this destructive disease of which I pray one day will find a cure and effective treatment... How the world would change !
I was asked this question by someone close to me after sharing my theory about acceptance on an other aspect in life and did not really knew how to reply to it. Even though it's all about acceptance it doesn't make it an easy message to bring across. Also because it feels too easy of an advice to yell from the sideline. How would you reply to such a question ? What would you want to hear if you were the patient ? I truly cannot imagine how it would be like to have a fatal disease like cancer. But still it's in our nature wanting to say something meaningful to show our compassion. 'You have to accept it and decide how to proceed in your mental approach' is something that won't instantly give asoothing mindset but I believe it is what it all comes down to.
It's a choice how you will spend the fading time that has been given to you. I have seen people fight and have experienced every second as a gift. I have also witnessed people getting into a depression and felt anger towards God. Both cases have the free will to choose their dealing with the situation. There is no manual about this matter. It's yet another of the many challenges people face in life. Not only for the patient but also for the people that are close to the person fighting cancer. I think a lot of you can imagine how hard it would be having a loved one being terminally ill. Though it's one party that is dying both parties have to deal with this knowledge. I have one friend in the spiritworld who died of cancer. One of the first people I knew who really stood close to me that has passed on. I didn't know how to cope with it since it was my first friend to go. I was much younger then and at that time I only visited him once in the year he'd spent in the hospital before passing on. Back then I wanted to remember him as the way I did before the diagnosis. Afterwards I couldn't help feeling a little guilty about the one time visit. At first I couldn't believe he died until the open casket.
Maybe it's up to no one to advise someone how to deal with cancer. I think I wouldn't want to hear any. But what can you do ? Maybe respecting wishes or simply be there when needed a listening ear or the holding of a hand. To show compassion. It's a journey, an exploration 'cause the one person is not the other. Merely offering suggestions for it's never easy dealing with it. For those fighting cancer and the loved once standing by: I wish you all the strength, faith, light, love and persistance of finding a way of dealing with this destructive disease of which I pray one day will find a cure and effective treatment... How the world would change !
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